Involuntarily optional..

Every now & then I get a wild urge to just go on a fantastic rant on things I discover or constant things I see on Facebook, comical right? Unfortunately, I live a routine life that is not so routine in a sense, but I don’t have the time to be a butterfly and be social beyond the customers at work & my friends across the country, well just one. Hopefully you can understand that beyond my boyfriend, across the nation best friend, customers who aren’t so fantastic (I work in a car parts store, customers are usually pissed when they have to deal with us) & on occasion my nosey neighbor.. I have little to no time to gallivant the area noticing society and it’s beautiful downfalls.

Continuing on.. I am going to be ranting about a few things.. maybe more or less than a few.. and probably going off topic on more than one scribble. Forgive me in advance,  I am not professional writer. However, Tumblr became crowded & nobody wants to read paragraphs of bullshitting on Facebook right? So this is the order I’m going to be ranting, hopefully, naive love, cheating, benefit of the doubt, & what things in life end up coming down to.. 3 things. I feel like its safe to say the first three all somehow tie into each other.

  • Naive Love

Perusing my facebook newsfeed I have come across a tsunami of naive love. More so one in particular, the “new boyfriend every so often months or weeks, after one break up bashing them on statuses & then refusing to admit that they are indeed hurt & not over it soooo onto the next hopeful who has no idea he is nothing more than damaged goods until they are overused” Run-on much? Yeah. Anyway, yes, it kills me.. Young, bright, could cut down on the constant self image pictures that all look the same uploads, priorities are a little lacking, but no standards in guys.. You were in love with one guy, now you’re in love with the next, and surprise you’re in love with this new guy too? I see, it’s ok to be in love because you have known him for a long time… Funny you known him or you have been acquaintances for a long time? Love doesnt come with that sudden rush, it comes with time, effort, downfalls, & sacrifice.. NOT a deep convo every few weeks and a steady paycheck.. There’s also a fine bold line of respect in love, you respect his/her emotions and sometimes theres emotions they don’t show but you know.. don’t test them.,. you’re only hurting yourself. Basically, I’m saying give yourself time to heal, find yourself & love who you are, know what you want, & be brave enough to not fall for the next guy who gives you everything you want.. A soul mate is suppose to break you, in all forms.. They break you open so a new light can shine through (eat pray love) they let you discover parts about you that you had no idea existed.. but they love all that about you as well.. Im not professional on love so don’t take my word for law, but I know love doesn’t always mean fields of beautiful daisies, its a field of roses.. beautiful, yes, but try and grab it up fast & blindly.. You’ll get stuck with a thorn.. and that pain lasts a little while.

  • Cheating

You can say its wrong and it hurts, but you will never mean it until it happens to you. Nothing hurts worse than not knowing the truth, its like working double over time to find it.. especially when your heart is on the line for someone you care about.. someone you trusted.. you always hope you don’t find anything, you’d rather take the blame for being wrong than being hurt.. but when you find the proof… its like death.. even if you knew before the proof, its still shocking.. i guess it depends on the kind of person you are.. but I like to think hurt is the same for everyone when it comes to giving yourself and your time up for another who gave theirs up to someone else.

I will always have my opinions on cheating, and by that I mean I will never say there is any moment it is acceptable. Rape, not cheating, in case there are any smartasses out there. You have a relationship, you stay faithful to them.. Unless you guys are under some sort of agreement that it’s ok to date other openly, then good for you. Anyway, cheating sucks.. Someone always gets hurt. Im harsh on people when it comes to it happening to people I’m close to getting cheating on.. Forgive them & then let them go.. Forgive & don’t forget.. Its like training something, if you say its ok the first time but not to do it again, they’re gonna get the courage to try again. Perhaps in a rare case theyll never do it again, but lets be real.. Who can honestly say they forgave their significant (lol) other and never had the feeling they were being cheated on again afterward.. or caught them leading up to it again.. not many. I don’t understand the ground people stand when they let it continue and then are surprised when it happens again… and again… and AGAIN.. You don’t deserve that because you deserve better.. but if you settle for it then that’s what youll continue to get.. Be brave.. be strong..

  • Benefit of a doubt

Moving forward.. Getting cheated on.. SUCKS.. we’ve concluded.. but entering a new relationship afterwards isn’t easy either.. not for you and not for the new lovely lover. This is where benefit of a doubt comes into play.. Assuming you gave yourself time to heal, you fancy this new person.. GREAT.. you enter the romance.. good job.. now things are beautiful.. YAY!.. then things begin to get mellow but just comfortable mellow as in maybe they’re not up your ass (not bed room wise haha) all the time.. you start to come up with wild images in your head that they are…………. Cheating.. when they probably are just playing some Words With Friends on some game but not the game with your emotions… Then you begin to go down that path, checking on them all the time, becoming the clinger you try to avoid becoming out of fear of history repeating itself.. STOP IT!! The hardest thing to do is to trust someone after being dragged through shit, but you should because you may lose something amazing.. not perfect.. but amazing that will grow into perfect, for you. Trust them until they give you a reason not to.. then if they give you a reason that isnt drastic, you can slowly work through it if it isn’t too late.. or just leave.. Benefit of the doubt it like trusting without knowing.. Ive seen too many relationships fall to pieces because one or the other or both made the other pay for the past.. its one of the saddest cycles I’ve ever seen.. Besides, I think it takes a lot for someone to enter a relationship with someone who’s been hurt a lot before, because they should already know it wont be easy but are willing to work through the broken pieces to be the glue that keeps it going and makes it a masterpiece.. just like a soul mate should.

  • What things in life end up coming down to

Everything in life has an outcome.. good, bad, working itself out by merely brushing it off aka ignoring it.. but it does.. So i’ve concluded.. anything and everything to deal with you comes down to these three outcomes or ways to deal with it

  1. You let it go & let life go on
  2. You do something about it so your life can go on
  3. Let it take over your life and you become its bitch

Either way, you have an option to take control of it, ignore it, or let it control you.. Choose wisely (:

Hope you guys enjoyed my crazy all over the place little post, my next post will probably be about me.. I probably should have done that first but I had been taking notes about these points these recent two days and needed to get them out of my head! Enjoy, leave comments.. open to constructive criticism of course, but I stated I am not a professional, and I just type as it comes to mind & gathers in this brain of mine.

Beware:  Sometimes I feel artistic & write poetry lol.

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